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Why Do I Keep Replaying Conversations? Rumination, Anxiety, and Self-Doubt |Sarah St.Martin Therapy, Salt Lake City, UT
The conversation is over. Nothing obviously went wrong. And yet, twenty minutes later, you are still thinking about it. Did I talk too much? Why did I say that? Did they seem annoyed? Maybe I should have explained myself differently. What did they mean when they said that? You replay the conversation from different angles, searching for the moment where you might have made a mistake. Maybe you text someone afterward to make sure everything is okay. Maybe you ask another perso
5 days ago6 min read


Over-Functioning in Relationships: When Being the Responsible One Becomes Exhausting | Sarah St.Martin Therapy, Salt Lake City, UT
You are probably the person people can count on. You remember the appointment. You make the reservation. You notice when someone is upset before they say anything. You think ahead, solve problems, and step in when something needs to be handled. You may even pride yourself on being independent, responsible, and capable. And those qualities are not the problem. The problem is when being responsible slowly turns into feeling responsible for everything. You start carrying more th
Sep 207 min read


Why First Responders Struggle to “Turn It Off” After Work | Sarah St.Martin, Salt Lake City, UT
Your shift ends. You change clothes, drive home, walk through the door, and technically, you are off duty. But your mind and body may not get the message quite as quickly. Maybe you are still replaying a call from earlier in the day. Maybe you find yourself scanning your surroundings without even realizing you are doing it. Maybe small things at home irritate you more than they should. Or maybe you feel completely fine—until your partner asks what is wrong and you realize you
Sep 136 min read


Recovering After Infidelity: Can a Relationship Heal After Betrayal? | Sarah St.Martin, Salt Lake City, UT
Few experiences are as painful as discovering your partner has been unfaithful. Whether the betrayal was emotional, physical, or happened online, it can leave you questioning everything you thought you knew about your relationship. Many people describe it as feeling like the ground has disappeared beneath them. You may find yourself replaying conversations, searching for answers, wondering if you'll ever feel safe again. If you're here, you're probably asking one of two quest
Jul 175 min read


Perfectionism Isn't Making You Better—It's Making You Anxious | Sarah St.Martin, Salt Lake City, UT
Tired of living by impossible standards? Perfectionism fuels more than just high achievement—it fuels anxiety and exhaustion. Explore how therapy for perfectionism and burnout in Salt Lake City can help you find a more grounded, flexible way of living.
Jun 304 min read


Why Setting Boundaries Feels So Hard (Even When You Know What to Say) | Sarah St.Martin, Salt Lake City, UT
Setting boundaries isn't just about what you say; it’s about navigating the fear of disconnection. If you find yourself over-explaining or feeling resentful after saying "yes," it’s time to look at what’s happening beneath the surface. Learn why boundaries feel so loaded and how to reclaim your peace without the guilt.
Jun 164 min read


Why You Feel Lost Even Though Your Life Looks Good on Paper | Sarah St.Martin, Salt Lake City, UT
You’ve done everything “right”—the career, the relationships, the stability—yet something still feels off. When your life looks good on paper but feels empty on the inside, it’s often a sign you’ve started performing instead of living. Explore why this disconnect happens and how to reconnect with what you actually want.
Jun 24 min read


Why Every Conversation Turns Into a Fight: Couples Therapy for Communication and Connection | Sarah St.Martin, Salt Lake City, UT
Are you and your partner having the same argument over and over? Discover how Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) helps couples in Utah break the cycle of blame and withdrawal. Move beyond surface-level fixes to find true emotional safety and connection again.
May 264 min read


Starting Couples Therapy: A Guide to Reconnecting | Sarah St.Martin, Salt Lake City, UT
Thinking about couples therapy but not sure what to expect? From understanding the "cycle" of your conflict to rebuilding trust after infidelity, this guide covers everything you need to know before your first session. Discover how therapy can help you move from feeling like roommates to building a secure, lasting connection.
May 124 min read


How to Find a Good Therapist (And Actually Know They’re the Right Fit) | Sarah St.Martin, Salt Lake City, UT
Finding a therapist can feel surprisingly overwhelming. You finally decide you want support, open Psychology Today or Google, and suddenly there are hundreds of therapists with words like trauma-informed, integrative, person-centered, attachment-based, and evidence-based everywhere. And somehow… you’re supposed to know who to trust with your inner world. If you’ve ever thought: “How do I know if a therapist is actually good?” “What if I choose the wrong one?” “Why does this f
May 114 min read


10 Signs You’re in an Unhealthy Relationship (That Aren’t Always Obvious) | Sarah St.Martin Therapy, Salt Lake City UT
Not all unhealthy relationships are defined by obvious conflict. Sometimes, the signs are subtle—like walking on eggshells or feeling a persistent sense of anxiety. Explore 10 non-obvious indicators of an unhealthy dynamic, the "Four Horsemen" of communication, and how to tell if your relationship pattern can be shifted.
Apr 284 min read


Why High-Functioning Anxiety Keeps You Looking Fine While Feeling Exhausted | Sarah St.Martin Therapy, Salt Lake City, UT
High-functioning anxiety can look like success on the outside—while inside you’re tense, overthinking, and exhausted. This post breaks down the hidden signs, why it happens, and gentle ways to find relief without losing the parts of you that get things done.
Apr 141 min read
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